Sad Music For Happy People

I love all sorts of music, but there’s something SO GOOD about a heart-wrenching, goose-bump inducing tearjerker. That said, I’m not really one to listen to sad music when I’m bummed out – I typically prefer to listen to really sad music when I’m happy. Why is that? Maybe because when you’re generally happy, life feels a bit…dull, but in a great way? Kind of like something’s missing, but you definitely don’t want that something. But listening to a really sad, soul-crushing song can make you really feel alive for a minute, even if you don’t necessarily relate right in the moment – it’s kind of like, proof you can still feel pain like a tortured artist even if you’re a grinning goofball in reality.


Here are some of my all-time favorite sad bastard songs:

  • Talking In Code ~ Margot & The Nuclear So and So’s (GOD this song is good – best breakup song of all time, in my book)
  • The Gold ~ Manchester Orchestra
  • Simple Math ~ Manchester Orchestra
  • Lightness ~ Death Cab For Cutie
  • Transatlanticism ~ Death Cab For Cutie 
  • I Don’t Want Love ~ The Antlers
  • A Lack of Color ~ Death Cab For Cutie (this song actually isn’t really sad, but it has that sad feeling – also, Death Cab is clutch for this type of music, clearly)
  • Should You Return ~ Copeland (if you want to get REAL sappy)
  • Colorblind ~ Counting Crows (also great for your, ahem, sexy time playlist…which, oddly enough, is the case with several of these songs – all that raw emotion, man.)
  • Black And Blue ~ Counting Crows
  • Dizzy ~ Jimmy Eat World
  • 23 ~ Jimmy Eat World (This was actually our wedding song, HA!)
  • The Big Fight ~ Stars
  • Not Your Lover ~ Blitzen Trapper
  • Discoloration ~ Dawn Golden
  • Cold Fame ~ Band Of Skulls
  • That Western Skyline ~ Dawes
  • Curs in the Weeds ~ Horse Feathers
  • Darlin’ ~ Houdmouth
  • My Baby Don’t Understand Me ~ Natalie Press
  • NYC ~ Interpol
  • Leif Erikson ~ Interpol
  • I Can’t Make You Love Me ~ Bonnie Raitt (The classic!)
  • The Background ~ Third Eye Blind (Your classic dead lover cancer song)
  • Casimir Pulaski Day ~ Sufjan Stevens (another cancer song for good measure)
  • Demons ~ Guster

Another option is to just listen to straight Radiohead – pretty much any Radiohead will do, but In Rainbows is a good album choice for the real soul-crushing stuff.

Happy weeping!

Fall Playlist

Here are the tunes I’ve been getting down to this season:


For the Damaged Coda ~Blonde Redhead

Only Love ~Anthony Green ft. Nate Ruess

Listen to the Math ~Tokyo Police Club

Spit on a Stranger ~Nickel Creek

River ~Civil Twilight

Keys ~Hooray for Earth

Sunrise Sunset ~We Are Trees

Noticed ~Mutemath

Twin Rivers ~Big Scary

I Can Breathe Again ~Baywood

Let Me Go ~Cake

I Want to Know What Love Is ~Amason

How Deep is Your Love ~The Bird and the Bee

Age of Consent ~New Order

Policy of Truth ~Depeche Mode

Enjoy the Silence ~Depeche Mode

Humble ~Kendrick Lamar

See You Again ~Tyler, The Creator

Changes ~Charles Bradley

Wild and Reckless ~Blitzen Trapper

Back in Your Head ~Tegan and Sara, ft. Ryan Adams

Feel it Still ~Portugal. The Man

Freeze Me ~Death From Above 1979

The Alien ~Manchester Orchestra

The Gold ~Manchester Orchestra

Talking in Code ~Margot & The Nuclear So And So’s

Gooey – Glass Animals

Kisser ~Step Rockets

Mid-Week Escape

Last night, Jeff and I took off work early and headed up to Philly to catch a concert at Festival Pier.

We wanted to avoid rush-hour traffic, so we decided to get an early start and were off & running by 3:30 or so. Despite not quite missing the swarms of traffic that clog 95 every afternoon (d’oh!) we arrived in the city shortly after 4 and settled in at Cuba Libre for happy hour. Recommended to me by some friends, Cuba Libre is this amazing Cuban restaurant and rum bar in Center City, and they have THE most amazing food and cocktails. They have a killer tapas selection for happy hour, so we each knocked back a couple of drinks and gorged ourselves on plantain chips and guac, padron peppers, ablondigas, and empanadas. Whoops, so much for healthy eating and not drinking on weekdays!



It was a beautiful – perfect, really – evening and Penn’s Landing wasn’t far, so we walked from the restaurant to the venue. After a couple of meh openers (All American Rejects played, and let me just say that if you’re familiar with the lead singer’s character on Parenthood, they apparently toned down his real-life personality when writing for him), Dashboard took the stage. Although I ultimately purchased the tickets for Jeff’s benefit, I’m secretly a huge Dashboard fan myself and definitely fangirled out a bit. Chris Carrabba sounds AMAZING live, and he seems like a delightful, classy guy. All around, it was a pretty great night, and it felt good to let off some steam mid-week.